I have recently been thinking a great deal about the messages we give our children, both in thought and deed, on purpose and by accident. I think we have been giving them bad or at least partially formed messages, doing them no favors as they move from childhood into adulthood.
One such is, "Don't worry about it; you'll be fine if you just follow your heart..." That's a lovely sentiment, I suppose, but one should probably add, "...but be prepared to say 'do you want fries with that' a lot...".
Another is, "Don't worry about what other people think of you...". That's just really bad advice. Most of your life is predicated on what other people think of you. I'm not quite sure how to modify that one. Maybe, "Be aware what a person thinks of you and decide if that particular person's opinion is important".
I don't know. It's a fine line. I used to think this would be so much easier if there were a guide book or something. Then I found some of those guide books and, as it turns out, they don't know either.
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